Gift For My Family
by Nancy Lee
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Note: The following letter was written by Nancy Lee of Charlottetown
for her family, after her diagnosis of terminal cancer. She has
allowed us to share this with you in the hopes that it will help
you celebrate your gifts. Thank you Nancy for your love and courage
as you face this challenge.
March of this year I received a diagnosis of terminal cancer.
Although this fate is not one anyone would wish for, it has given
me a great gift.
years I had heard about how you should live in the moment or live
for today but I could never quite get the feeling. I would always
get stuck in fears or worries about tomorrow and even worse, sometimes,
I would worry and act upon things that might happen 20 years in
about 45 seconds of panic when I was told about my cancer, I began
to enjoy life in a way I had never done before. It seems a shame
that it took this diagnosis to receive this gift so I wanted to
share it with people in hopes that they could have this wonderful
two greatest weaknesses in my life were feeling responsible for
the whole world, and thinking I had to be completely self-sufficient.
I'm also a terrible money manager and that didn't help either.
the same time as my diagnosis, the motor seized in my car, so
I had no transportation. I started out by taking every gift that
was offered - like do you want a drive to the beach? How about
going out for dinner? As this evolved, I became clearer on what
I wanted, and learned to say yes to some things and no to others..
Eventually, this meant that everyday I was doing exactly what
I wanted to do.
this might sound selfish, I don't believe it was because I wanted
to give a lot of the time as well. The difference was that my
giving was always unconditional, and usually didn't cost money.
I listened more carefully to others and received great joy in
being accurately empathic. As I listened to people, I got to know
them well, and found when you know a person well you always like
them. Now I had all these lovely people around me all the time.
found my condition deteriorated less when I had some sort of project
on the go, so anytime I started feeling sick, I devised a new
project. I decided to write a book; made sure I had a ride on
a water slide; went on a roller coaster; saw the eagles; fed the
squirrels with my little nephews; and countless other fun things
that seemed less significant before.
my life to make sure there were no amends I felt important to
make. I reviewed my mistakes and learning experiences, in terms
of intent rather than results, I came out okay, and that helped
I have a little less breath than yesterday, but I'm truly a happy
person. I want you to have this gift without the illness. Try
it, it's lots of fun ! Love Nancy
Lee has dedicated her life to service through a number of Child
and Family Agencies in Atlantic Canada. She continues to celebrate
her gift as she deals with the challenge she has been give. God
Bless you, Nancy
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